How to Make a Marriage Last

Amy Bloom once stated, “Love at first sight is easy to understand; it’s when two people have been looking at each other for a lifetime that it becomes a miracle”. No statement can come closer to the truth. However, there are some things you can do to enhance your chances in achieving this great blessing. These tips are simple but it takes a lot of effort and love to implement them.

  1. Always be grateful for one another. Never take each other for granted. Don’t forget to notice all the things he or she does for you. Always celebrate them and make them feel special. If you see that your spouse cleaned the house, let them know! If you see that your love made your favorite meal, let them know! ALWAYS let them know. Being detailed oriented with each other never gets old, right?
  2. Learn to say sorry and admit when you are wrong. This prevents frustration and confusion in the relationship. Sometimes it is important to remember that you are not the one who is supposed to win this battle. It is the relationship that has to win. You guys are a team not rivals. Choose your battles wisely.
  3. Have goals together. It is very important to share goals and dreams with each other. Try having a quiet dinner once in a while to talk about the future or even better a glass of wine. It is essential for a couple to feel that they can talk to each other and share their journey we all call the journey of life with each other. Motivate one another.
  4. Never  disrespect each other in any way shape or form. This is a habit that later on becomes very difficult to avoid. ALWAYS respect each other. NO excuses. You can argue and have a conversation without being disrespectful.
  5. Don’t let yourself go. Always try to look your best and show your sexy side. Of course, there are many times when you won’t feel or look your best but it is important to maintain that fire in the relationship. It is the ugly truth. Don’t be in sweat pants all day every day. This goes for women and men. Be the best you can be.
  6. Make sex a priority in the marriage. Simple as that. Don’t make it so tough to have that alone time. Always thrive to please each other.  This aspect of love is essential for the survival of a marriage. Have fun with it. Enjoy it! You know what they say… sex is the funnest thing you can do without laughing 🙂
  7. Never let the fire of romance fade away. Romance is as important as sex in a relationship. It doesn’t have to be a huge act of love. You can be romantic with sweet comments or a simple flower once in a while. Just show that you are still madly in love with your soul mate. If you have these two ingredients alive, you are on the right track! Believe me!
  8. Learn how to communicate without blaming each other for the situation. Again, this is a team. When the relationship wins you BOTH win! Always express how YOU feel and hopefully both of you as a couple can find a way to resolve the problem. Don’t blame each other for everything and try to UNDERSTAND the situation.
  9. If you have kids together, try to not forget that you are not only a parent. You are more than just a mother or a father, you are also a wife or a husband. Have fun once in a while like you used to do when you were younger. Go out with friends and laugh together! Be fun, be happy, be you!
  10. Never forget the passionate love you both feel for one another <3

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